Previously published on VOGUE
It is no coincidence that ‘sorority’ has been one of the most important words of 2018, the neologism, which describes the friendship and reciprocity between women working for the same goal, was one of the new additions to the dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy. Sorority precisely treats female mentoring, to support each other both in the workplace and in life in general.
Behind every successful woman hides a story and references, which are the women who inspire us and drive our motivation simply by their example and, if we are lucky, with their teachings. An admired actress, a thinker who questioned the established, a teacher who marked us, a boss who tutored us, a person we call friend … Anyone can be susceptible to become our mentor.
However, perhaps due to the historical lack of feminine references in the professional world, most women cite their mothers and grandmothers as their mentors and their female models. They are the closest people, who believe in us and support us every day so that we achieve our goals. “I have always been moved by the women of my family who never became what they could have been, who were magnificent in many ways but could not live to their full potential. Thinking about my mother and grandmother deeply inspires me in every aspect of my life, “actress Salma Hayek confessed a few years ago in an interview.
“Mentor was the advisor to Ulysses’ son in the Odyssey, a person who transfers their experience to another person”, explains Celia de Anca, director of the Center for Diversity at IE Business School. “We follow that idea, especially with the students in master’s programs because they usually meet at times when they have to make crucial decisions, both in training and family life or conciliation. We try to be a cane that helps them to focus the step and deal with them issues that concern them “, develops De Anca, who has led different mentoring initiatives.
“It’s not about giving advice and telling stories, but about understanding that person you mentor, wanting to understand her, helping her and strengthening her strengths,” reveals Carmen Morales, professor and mentor at IE Business School. “It takes empathy, a lot of patience and generosity, because mentoring is not paid, it’s more than dedicating your time to someone else,” says Morales, who says her motivation is to help others overcome the difficulties they face. in her professional career.
“Mentoring women is different from men, the doubts or concerns they may have are not the same. They have a harder time daring to do things, expect that they will reject them or perceive that things are much more difficult, ” she clarifies.